It's My Party and I'll Cry If I Want To...

Today is my birthday. I don't tell you this because I want "Happy Birthdays" or gifts. (Okay, if you feel you must send a gift, cash is always nice.) I tell you this because I'm struggling with this birthday. A lot. I know I'm not old. Yet.

Immortality is starting to fade away and I'm realizing that this great ride isn't going to last forever. My kids keep getting older even though I've asked them to stop. I'm starting to notice that I'm getting some wrinkles (ACK!) at the corners of my eyes and I'm saying things like "damn kids" to people who must be in their 20's. *sigh* I was not looking forward to getting older. I had my first child when I was 22 years old. I was excited. I told myself, when she graduates from high school I'll ONLY BE 40 years old. ONLY. Why is it that 40 seems so much older now than when I said that?

So my question to all of you is this, is there a birthday that you struggled with? Is there a point when you realized your immortality was fading? Are you willing to share that with me (and the entire internet)? Happy Tuesday.

Maxine on Aging
"Take every birthday with a grain of salt.
This works much better if the salt accompanies a large margarita"


  1. I love Maxine! She's a gal after my own heart. :D

    My big birthday was 20. Yeah. I know. Weird. But it was the defining one for me. I wasn't a teenager any more. I actually had to grow up, become an adult, even though legally, that was a year away.

    25 was philosophical. Amazed at the history I'd been alive to witness, I partied with friends and went on.

    30 was a blur. I was still single and the biological clock was ticking. I was engaged and married before I hit 31, but it was 3 more years before The Only became a twinkle.

    40? I was too busy with life to notice.

    50? Another philosophical birthday. A crap-load of stuff happened in those 50 years and I remembered most of them. (No old-timers yet!)

    I'm now closer to 60 than I am 55. What? Me almost 60? I don't feel that old? Well...emotionally anyway. My body creaks and groans, though I happen to think I look pretty damn good for my age! I have young friends, though I occasionally shake my cane and order them off my lawn.

    Age is relative. You really are only as old as you feel. Peter Pan is my BFF. That's my story and I'm stickin' to it!

    Have a happy birthday! That's an order!

    *bwahaha* My captcha word is mudrific! Have a mudrific day!!!

  2. How can I top Silver's trip down memory lane? The only birthday I found really hard was 26 - just finished my degree and was working at my chosen profession (which I hated - oops, what the hell have I done and I'm too old to start over). I got over that with some good friends and lots of wine :)

    Funny birthday story a two years ago. The Husband leaned over at midnight and wished me a Happy Birthday. I told him 43 felt pretty good. He kindly informed me that I was, at that moment, 44! WTF? Where did 43 go? Man, talk about feeling old on your birthday - I had aged two years in the span of a few minutes. He still laughs about it - asks me every birthday since how old I'm going to be! Funny guy.

    Anyway - Happy Birthday, Erika. As Silver said, you're only as old as you feel - and act. Think young and you'll be the envy of all those other 40 year olds :)

  3. Hey ladies. Thanks for stopping by. I don't feel old, I'm just contemplating my mortality. It's been a good birthday this year.

    I feel the need to clear up that I didn't turn 40 this year, I turned 37, sorry for the confusion. I should have been more specific.

  4. I know I am way behind... And for that my dear friend I am sorry... cuz you know how I love bdays!!!
    But Janet is right... I can not for the life of me top Silver's wonderful comment! And she is soo right in everything she said ~ even the comment about her not looking her age, she is a beautiful woman. Anyway.. on to your bday... I hope you have a wonderful bday honey!!!! May you eat your dessert first!!! Hugs to you!!

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